John's Links

Just a collection of bits and bytes I find on the web.

April 22, 2014 7:08 pm 5:15 pm

"When people say bisexual men will eventually be gay, and when people say that bisexual women will eventually be straight, what people are actually saying is that choosing men over women is inevitable.

This is patriarchy.”

3:23 pm

Jamie Casino

1:30 pm
Stop Saying "I Have a Boyfriend" |

Yes, this may be the easiest and quickest way to get someone to leave you alone, but the problems associated with using this excuse far outweigh the benefits. There is a quotation that I’ve seen floating around Tumblr recently (reblogged by many of my amazing feminist Tumblr-friends) that goes as follows:

Male privilege is “I have a boyfriend” being the only thing that can actually stop someone from hitting on you because they respect another male-bodied person more than they respect your rejection/lack of interest.

This amazingly puts into one sentence what I have been attempting to explain to ex-boyfriends and friends (male and female) for years, mostly unsuccessfully. The idea that a woman should only be left alone if she is “taken” or “spoken for” (terms that make my brain twitch) completely removes the level of respect that should be expected toward that woman. It completely removes the agency of the woman, her ability to speak for herself and make her own decisions regarding when and where the conversation begins or ends. It is basically a real-life example of feminist theory at work–women (along with women’s choices, desires, etc.) being considered supplemental to or secondary to men, be it the man with whom she is interacting or the man to whom she “belongs” (see the theory of Simone de Beauvoir, the story of Adam and Eve, etc.). And the worst part of the whole situation is that we’re doing this to ourselves.

11:37 am

Just because it isn’t happening here…

9:45 am
"If you consider a woman less pure after you’ve touched her, maybe you should take a look at your hands."

(via theeidyia)

(Source: anachronica, via submissivefeminist)

7:52 am April 21, 2014 7:59 pm 7:08 pm
Reaching My Autistic Son Through Disney

In our first year in Washington, our son disappeared.

Just shy of his 3rd birthday, an engaged, chatty child, full of typical speech — “I love you,” “Where are my Ninja Turtles?” “Let’s get ice cream!” — fell silent. He cried, inconsolably. Didn’t sleep. Wouldn’t make eye contact. His only word was “juice.”

5:15 pm 3:22 pm 1:30 pm

But if I don’t, what’s the point?


But if I don’t, what’s the point?

(Source: love-is-lust-with-jealousy, via udeadonce)

11:38 am 10:32 am
"Imagine if we had IMDB + Rap Genius for all bills and regulations so we could know which lobbyists wrote what rules."
9:45 am